Menu

Hold Me Tight© Workshop

WHAT IS THE HOLD ME TIGHT(R) WORKSHOP?


Hold Me Tight

The Hold Me Tight® couple’s workshop is available worldwide and based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s best-selling book “Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love”, which is based on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, (EFT).

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is at the cutting edge of couple interventions and has been heralded by The New York Times and Time magazine as the couple therapy with the highest rate of success. The research of EFT shows that learning how to become emotionally responsive to each other is the key to a safe, healthy and stable relationship. In the research, EFT is 70% successful at restoring thriving relationships. The next best modality is 35% successful.

The Hold Me Tight® Workshop is a 16 hour educational workshop designed to help you build your relationship, overcome challenging negative patterns of communication, strengthen your connection and feel secure, valued and loved. It will help you to understand your relationship in a deeper way and give you ways to break old destructive patterns that arise again and again.

WHAT WILL YOU LEARN?

· You will learn how to break the cycles of frustration and isolation that come when caught in negative interactions with each other

· You will learn more about your own and your partner’s inner world so that you can make sense of each other’s emotions

· You will learn how to communicate your emotional needs for connection in a way that invites responsiveness from each other

· You will learn how to understand each other’s needs and learn how to fulfill them

· You will learn to show love with more fullness, aliveness, presence, and a deeper connection

· You will learn how to deepen your emotional and physical connection

· You will learn how to have the relationship you’ve always wanted

WHAT HAPPENS AT THE WORKSHOP?

The workshop is divided into 8 sessions, each consisting of:

· Some teaching on the topic---you will learn about love and emotional attachment, based on 40+ years of research and studies. This will help you better understand the world of emotions, and conflicts that arise when partners begin to feel insecure or defensive

· Watching some video of real couples working each conversation—If you are like most couples, you may be able to recognize some similar patterns in your own relationship, and the more vulnerable emotions underlying them.

· A private conversation with your partner—Using the materials as a guide, you will be given time to practice learning about yours and your partner’s emotions and underlying needs. You will gain a greater awareness of how to really listen with an open heart and how to be responsive with one another in a deeper more meaningful way. During this time, your facilitators will visit each couple to help you along.

· Back in the group, we debrief. Participants are given the opportunity to share what they might have taken away, in a general sense, from that particular conversation. THERE IS NO OBLIGATION TO SHARE AT ALL. We will always maintain your privacy.

WHOM DOES THIS WORKSHOP BENEFIT?

You can benefit from this workshop if:

• You want to enrich your already strong relationship
• You want to create a more loving, emotional connection with your partner
• You want ways to pull each other close in difficult situations
• You see negative patterns that overpower your relationship at times, but can’t see how to create new positive ways of engaging one another.

IS THIS WORKSHOP FOR EVERYONE?

• This workshop is an educational program. While it will be presented by trained therapists, it is not intended to serve as a substitution for therapy with a professional.

• It is not intended for couples in crisis or with a long history of major distress, such as physical or emotional abuse where one person expresses fear of the other.

• It is not suited for couples when there is an active addiction or an ongoing affair.

• It is not suited for couples when one partner is not committed to the growth of the relationship.


WHAT ARE THE SEVEN CONVERSATIONS?

  • Recognizing Demon Dialogues ---Couples identify their argument patterns and figure out what each other is really trying to say.
  • Finding the Raw Spots ---Move beyond immediate, impulsive reactions when raw spots are hit.
  • Revisiting a Rocky Moment ---A platform for de-escalating conflict, repairing rifts in a relationship, and building emotional safety.
  • Hold Me Tight ---Moves partners into being more accessible, emotionally responsive, and deeply engaged with each other.
  • Forgiving Injuries ---Knowing how to find and offer forgiveness for lingering hurts empowers couples to strengthen their bond.
  • Bonding Through Sex and Touch ---Find how emotional connection creates great sex, and great sex creates deeper emmotional connection.
  • Keeping Your Love Alive ---Love is a continual process of losing and finding emotional connection; create a plan to be diliberate and mindful about maintaining your connection.